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» posted on Friday, January 15th, 2010 at 1:33 pm by ghowe
Youthful Fear and What To Do With It
Young athletes and fear often collide like freight trains racing toward each other on the same track. All of us face it. But for the young athlete, it is often horrific.
When our oldest daughter Rachel was five, she started track. Practice was ok. She liked running, the new shoes, and a uniform. Moms and coaches were there in the shadows of an open stadium, with empty bleachers, lots of encouragement and love. There was nothing threatening about practice. Not so on the day of the first track meet. She got up, got dressed, and started crying. Her mother and I sat for a long time with her on her bed consoling and dabbing tears. She told us she was afraid, that she didn’t know if she could do it, that she was scared. We encouraged her to go, to see what was going on, to give it a try.
Now it was the parents turn to be afraid. What if she had a negative experience? What if she never ran again? What if she wanted to throw rocks at us? All good questions. We arrived at the track. The stadium was full of parents and kids. The infield was covered with the bright uniforms of stretching athletes, high jumpers, track teams, and chatter. The track was marked with fresh chalk. The starter carried a pistol. There were lots of things frightening to a child who had practiced in the shadows of a quiet stadium and did not want to run except maybe home. So we sat on the grass, watched the runners prepare, and listened to the starter pistol pop in the early morning sunshine. We just watched.
Her race was called. “Try it,” I said to her. “If you don’t like it, we’ll go home. Give it a try.” I think that at that moment in time I was more frightened than she. Such a promise. She lined up for the 200 meter, looking at her mother, sister and I, then, at the starter with his huge black starter pistol, his raspy voice, shouting “Ready.” The gun went off, and the race was on. Rachel may not have started well. That pistol was loud and the fans were cheering but she started, she ran, and to everyone’s astonishment . . . she won. No one was more relieved than I.
At little league tryouts my youngest son, all six years of him, wasn’t sure. In fact he was absolutely not sure. There were lots of people. Names were called over a megaphone for each boy and girl to come up– to throw the ball, to catch it, to swing the bat at a ball pitched and one perched on a T. But the pitched ball was thrown by a full-grown man that in this case had played ball professionally. There were ten men with clip boards watching.
It wasn’t the backyard, where everyone loved and adored him. It was with a hundred parents and seemingly a thousand kids his age, watching . . . him. His name was called. He didn’t want to go. He, like his sister wanted to go home. So we watched the entire tryout. He noted that he knew a lot of those kids, that he’d played with them, that they did ok. He thought about the fact that it was only a ball. The crowd began to diminish. No one was carried away in a stretcher. Finally he decided that he could do it, that it was no big deal. And it was no big deal. He’d overcome those fears, all by himself.
We all have fears. Performance anxiety is real. It takes time, encouragement, and as little “stress” pressure as possible for young athletes to seize their demons. Rachel went on to become an all star in track, basketball, and soccer. She overcame those fears, as did her brother. Parental and coach patience, together with lots of encouragement are the keys to overcoming fear. For all of us it is different. Once the kids know that they “can,” the parents can relax. You know they “will.”
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» posted on Saturday, January 2nd, 2010 at 11:23 am by ghowe
Parents and Youth Athletic Equipment
Painful as it may be, given the fact that you’ve already spent $75.00 just for your son and/or daughter to play, proper equipment is also important. It ranks right up there with the fee to play. Some have questioned this statement. Let me explain. If your youth is running track and you forgo buying her track spikes, she will most assuredly be three or four steps behind an athlete with similar talent who uses spikes. In track, spikes make a huge difference. Remember you are hoping and praying and wishing that your son or daughter will experience success, be the best that they can be, and have loads of fun. For these reasons proper equipment is very, very important.
The first rule is: Talk to the coach before you purchase. He should know, and I would expect him to know, what equipment is required for his particular sport.
Rule number two: Don’t make do. Here’s an example of making do. I refereed a soccer match. Preliminarily, the referee checks every player’s equipment to see that it is proper and to make sure shoe laces are tied. I insisted that the players use soccer cleats. This caused a stir that amazed me. One parent insisted that his boy “make do” by wearing baseball cleats. The rules prohibit this. There are several reasons, but here are three: First, it’s against the rules. Baseball cleats have a front cleat that hangs on the front edge of the sole. Soccer cleats do not. This makes the use of baseball cleats in a soccer match particularly dangerous. Players are always falling down near the ball and the ball is always being kicked. Baseball cleats cause gouges, cuts, bruises and injuries because the front cleat hooks and grabs flesh. Do not even ask to use baseball cleats in a soccer game. The second reason for not using baseball cleats in a soccer match is based on the design of the shoe itself. Baseball cleats are designed to run in a straightforward line. i.e., from 1st to 2nd base. Soccer cleats are designed to run laterally as well as forward. They are designed to run in whatever direction the ball is bouncing, which invariably isn’t a straight line.
Another example of making do: Some parents want to substitute regular tennis shoes for a particular set of cleats. Don’t do it. They have no grab on the base paths, no grab on a track and they slip like crazy on grass. It leads to embarrassment and failure. In baseball, use baseball cleats. In track, use spikes. In tennis, use tennis shoes. Each particular shoe is specifically designed for the particular demands of a particular sport. Give your youth the advantage of the right equipment for the right sport.
As an aside and a hint about a legitimate “making do.” Generally cleats of all varieties are not comfortable and do not offer much foot support. This is especially traumatic where your athlete has flat feet or a high instep. A parent can buy Dr. Scholl’s or some other variation of insoles which work very well, or a parent can take the insoles out of their child’s tennis shoes and slip them into their cleats. Suddenly the foot is well supported without a great deal of cost.
Rule 3: When purchasing equipment, get what your youth needs and what the particular sport requires. This isn’t necessarily what looks good although looks are important. For example, I had a young baseball player come to the first practice with a new bat. This was an eight-year-old kid with a bat that Babe Ruth would have been comfortable with. Instead of the nineteen-ounce bat he should have been packing he was dragging around a beautiful thirty-four ounce bat that even his father would have had difficulty using. Rule of thumb: If the athlete can hold the bat straight out from his/her body, arm extended, without it waving like a leaf in the wind, for thirty seconds, it is probably a good bat for him/her. Another example: I was coaching a U8 soccer team. The parents and athlete showed up at the first practice with a size 5 soccer ball. That’s what professionals use in the MLS. She needed a size three. It is what the league used. It was what she should use. A five is simply too big for an under eight player. A small foot and a large ball mean no control.
In conclusion, ask the coach what is needed before you spend your money. Only buy the equipment that success in a particular sport demands, and never cut corners or make do when the real item is required. If you follow these simple guidelines, your child’s success in youth athletics will be enhanced.
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